Peter calls himself a servant, a slave of Jesus Christ, being owned by Christ. When Christ controls us, we are giving over every area of our life to him.
Learn all you can about your wife. You honor your wife by not criticizing her, but encouraging. To honor means to value her opinion. Pray together as heirs of the grace of God.
You take time to wait on God and let the Holy Spirit guide you, and I can guarantee you, beloved, that you’ll be praying in line with the Will of God. And your prayer will have an answer.