Scripture, 1 Corinthians 7:1-40
For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? Or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? (1 Cor. 7:16)

Now and again a married couple comes to me and say, "We're not happy together." Frequently I'll reply, "Well, you're not required to be happy; you're required to be faithful, godly, and full of the Holy Spirit. Are you?" Happiness is a by-product, ladies and gentlemen. It's not something you seek. Husbands and wives can't simply decide to be happy. It just doesn't work that way. As the years pass and the children come along and the burdens of life bear down, sometimes there's too much month left over at the end of the money. Illness takes its toll. A few gray hairs sprout here and there. You find out why they call it middle age, because that's where it shows first. Combine all this and what becomes of the marriage relationship if there is not one solid, challenging, satisfying purpose that a husband and wife have set as their goal? What is the cement that holds it all together? It is ministering the things of God to your mate. That doesn't happen by sitting down and saying, "Now I'm going to minister to you." And it doesn't happen by walking around either early in the morning or late at night with a gloomy "spiritual" expression and saying, "Don't disturb me; I'm having my devotions." You minister spiritually to your life partner by living Christ before him or her every moment every day.

Small thought here
Your biggest job is to bless your mate and thus to sanctify your relationship-physical, emotional, and spiritual. When you fulfill this God-given purpose, your home will be a haven within and a beacon without.